"The vulnerability that Ellen displays throughout "You're Not Doing It Right," creates an incredibly authentic view into the most difficult experience someone can go through. I went through a spectrum of intense emotions while on the journey of Ellen and her family. I learned so much about dementia, what to look for, and what to expect during different stages, specifically Lewy body dementia. This book is a must-read for anyone who has gone through the loss of a parent or loved one, anyone who is struggling with intergenerational relationships, and anyone who will likely be faced with difficult decisions for aging loved ones, so basically everyone. Ellen has a gift for telling stories in a way that makes them so relatable. Several times while reading the book, I thought, That's me too! The same thing happened to me! I am so grateful to have read this book."

Denette Suddeth; Former Caregiver; Bank Executive

"Our mission at Cariloop is to relieve the stress and anxiety felt by all caregivers. We have a front-row seat to the struggles of many family caregivers. Ellen Patnaude's "You're Not Doing It Right" was a page-turner for me, even though I've been hearing about the struggles of caregivers for many years. Ellen gives us an intimate glimpse into her family's journey in a way that is real, helpful, honest, and heartbreaking-all while being very readable. I couldn't put it down. This is a memoir, not a self-help book, yet I came away feeling like I learned something valuable about my own feelings through Ellen sharing hers. I recommend this book to all caregivers, as so many struggle with self-doubt, and to anyone who can relate to juggling the balance of work, family, and life."

Wendy Whittington, MD, MMM; Chief Care Officer of Cariloop

"I'm not religious, but I found myself saying 'Amen!' during my reading of this book. Ellen's experience resonates with me on so many levels. Her thoughts, the realizations she had about her mother in each moment, and even some of the harsh doctor-speak remind me of my own experiences. The emotional, mental, and physical roller coaster of caregiving is real. Every caregiver needs to read this book. Many themes within caregiving are similar. There will be unknowns, there is always denial, and of course, the person you care for will be less like themselves at the end of the journey. This is life, but if we talk more about this reality, we'll know some of the things to look for and have a few ways to care for ourselves and our loved ones. Thank you, Ellen, for letting your thoughts, feelings, and very clear tips pour out of you."

Erna Alfred Liousas; Caregiver, Strategist, Changemaker; Host of the podcast The Whole Caregiver

"I feel validated. "You're Not Doing It Right" hits so many marks I went through as an only child caring for my mom, who I am the spitting image of. Instead of over-romanticizing the opportunity to be there in ways never imagined, this book is a real take on the hills and valleys of tending to an aging parent with whom one has had a loving yet tension-filled relationship. The dichotomy of spending countless hours with this person you love more than anyone-this person who can pluck your ever-loving last nerve in two seconds flat while they're just trying to be 'helpful' with their suggestion or observation-was mind-numbing. Ellen's experience is one that will resonate widely as she takes us on that roller coaster with her."

Clinton Crow; Former Caregiver; COO of LEAD