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As Time Goes by: Boomerang Marriages, Serial Spouses, Throwback Couples, and Other Romantic Adventures in an Age of Longevity

Abigail Trafford

People today are living longer and healthier lives than at any other time in history -- with profound implications for the nature of their romantic relationships. In this inspiring new book, best-selling author Abigail Trafford describes how people over fifty are rewriting the script of love and in the process redefining the institution of marriage for future generations. Drawing on interviews with hundreds of men and women, married and single, gay and straight, she shows how the unprecedented period of vitality after midlife but before traditional old age is much more complicated romantically and sexually than those glossy images of gray-haired people on the beach would suggest. And she reveals how today's fifty-plus men and women are raising the bar on marital satisfaction. They are more likely to break up an unhappy liaison than previous generations; and they are more freewheeling in finding new formulas for romantic satisfaction.

Trafford deftly narrates what it means to love and be loved in the decades after midlife -- and she offers solutions to the most common problems that define this time of life. Whether she's shedding light on "retired-spouse syndrome," sharing stories of sexual turmoil, explaining how to plan a marital time-out or navigate the troubled waters of divorce, Trafford's wise and compassionate counsel is imbued with her signature warmth and reassurance. As Time Goes By is an urgently needed guide to the pursuit of love and happiness in this dynamic stage of life.

Book Details

  • Publisher: Basic Books
  • Publish Date: Jan 12nd, 2010
  • Pages: 304
  • Language: English
  • Edition: undefined - undefined
  • Dimensions: 8.80in - 5.70in - 0.80in - 0.90lb
  • EAN: 9780465018635
  • Categories: Life Stages - GeneralMarriage & Long Term RelationshipsGeneral

About the Author

Abigail Trafford, an award-winning journalist and bestselling author, is a former health editor at the Washington Post. She is the author of My Time and Crazy Time. She lives in Washington, D.C.

Praise for this book

"Library Journal"
"[Abigail Trafford] delves into the problems of retirement and illness with compassionate insight and offers observations rather than advice. A distinctive slant on the aging process; highly recommended."


"Washington Post"
.,."the mood also amounts to a point of view: not rose-colored glasses but a strong, hopeful heart and an abiding belief in the power of love."


"Publishers Weekly"
"This insightful book has quite a bit to say about modern relationships, young and old, the most important of which may be that falling in love at 80 is not much different from falling in love at 18."