"Bancroft has opened a window into the thinking of abusive men, and his book helps open a door out of abusive relationships."--Gavin de Becker, New York Times bestselling author of The Gift of Fear and Fear Less

"This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men."--Jay G. Silverman, PhD, director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health

"Jargon-free analysis is frequently broken up by interesting first-person accounts and boxes that distill in-depth information into simple checklists. Bancroft's book promises to be a beacon of calm for many storm-tossed families."--Publishers Weekly

"Bancroft boldly asks--and brilliantly answers--the most important questions of all: Why do so many men abuse women? What can be done about it? This book is desperately needed and long overdue."--Jackson Katz, creator of the award-winning video Tough Guise: Violence, Media and the Crisis in Masculinity

"This is essential reading for those in the helping professions and highly recommended."--Library Journal

"At last--the straight scoop on men who abuse women. This is a book not just for abused women and domestic violence professionals, but for everyone who wonders why there's so much violence in America. Read it."--Ann Jones, author of When Love Goes Wrong and Next Time, She'll Be Dead

"Bancroft helps women who feel trapped in unhealthy relationships make sense out of what is happening."--Sarah Buel, JD, codirector, Domestic Violence Clinic, and lecturer, University of Texas Law School

"A compelling read about a tough topic. What you read here will come back to you long after you put the book down."--Angela Browne, author of When Battered Women Kill

"An informative and necessary read."--Susan Weitzman, PhD, author of Not to People Like Us: Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages