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Kinky Roots: A Memoir

Ingrid Arlington

Kinky Roots: A Memoir is a 2021 Pencraft Book Award Winner for Non-Fiction. It is the memories, ruminations and vignettes of growing up in Southern Africa and moving to the UK.


Written from the life, wisdom and experiences of Ingrid Arlington, 'Kinky Roots' is an uplifting, poignant and reflective journey alongside the author. From a tumultuous upbringing in Zimbabwe, where violence and sexual assault was rife - to Ingrid meeting her husband in South Africa before starting an arduous new life in the UK. It's a story that explores how identity, excuses, religion, relationships, self-worth and family heritage all ultimately lay life's crazy pathway.


United Kingdom - When Ingrid Arlington looks back on her life, it's been a rollercoaster defined by adversity, poor relationships with men, a move to the other side of the world - and some bold life lessons that have ultimately made Arlington a fearlessly strong woman.


'Kinky Roots' invites readers to step alongside her as they rise from the ashes of loss and harassment in Zimbabwe, to a new life in the UK. No step has been without its challenges, yet Arlington steadfastly defines each as a vital part of her story.


From the introduction:

That day, I felt lost, aimless, purposeless. I had received a rejection from an employment agent saying I didn't get the 33rd job that I'd applied for, whilst sitting on the couch watching NCIS reruns and stuffing my face with all sorts of snacks. I felt like a black Bridget Jones - except I wasn't trying to quit smoking and I already had the man. Now, you might ask how I got myself into this unemployed situation, feeling all sorry for myself. The easy answer is that I moved from South Africa to the UK with Alex (my husband of nine years), to pursue happiness and the European dream but without a plan of how to do this. The difficult answer, I guess, starts a year after arriving.


"I started re-evaluating my life when I hit unemployment rock bottom in the UK," explains the author. "It was a very raw process of questioning myself and my identity, and reliving my tough upbringing in Zimbabwe - a place where my mother chose her new husband over me, and where I'd been sexually harassed by the age of fourteen. I took a long, hard look at how I'd always chosen controlling men, and felt powerless in every relationship I'd gotten into. As I unraveled things, I began to figure out who I really am."


Continuing, "My biggest life change was meeting my husband in South Africa, only to find him relapsing on a drug habit - fiercely challenging my Christian upbringing. After our separation, I began to mull over everything from excuses, my beliefs, biases around religion, the LGBTQ community, my emotions and how music connects it all - and the definitions I devised are now all shared in this volume". It's going to leave people with plenty to think about.

Book Details

  • Publisher: Nicole Chesworth
  • Publish Date: Nov 6th, 2020
  • Pages: 242
  • Language: English
  • Edition: Retail - undefined
  • Dimensions: 9.00in - 6.00in - 0.61in - 0.65lb
  • EAN: 9781527291836
  • Categories: MemoirsAfrican American & BlackWomen

About the Author

Arlington, Ingrid: - She is a wife and mum to two adorable Jack Russell terriers. Born in South Africa and raised in Zimbabwe. Cybersecurity consulting is her daily vocation but she is a newly discovered writer at heart. She loves food, nature, architecture, travel, art, and capturing it all on camera. Her ideal day is spent in her pj's on the couch watching Normal People with a bottomless cup of tea.

Praise for this book

Art of Superwoman Blog​

"It will force you to confront memories you pushed back to your subconscious and see them for what they really are. It will help you reflect and forgive yourself for moments when you didn't know any better, leave you in stitches"

Full review: https: //www.artofsuperwoman.com/2021/08/28/kinky-roots-review/

A Bibliophiles Book Blog

7/10

I loved the way this book was written! The warmth and friendliness of her tone really invites you into her story. Full review: https: //abibliophilesbookblog.wordpress.com/2021/06/08/kinky-roots/

AM Publishers writes, "Engrossing, strikingly honest, reflective piece. An ambitious and captivating scope of work."

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ "Engaging, uplifting and enriching....interesting, funny and sad (and actually made me cry)" - Booklovermum on Amazon UK


⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ "Beautiful and Brilliant Memoir about Healing and Growth" - Favorite Librarian on Amazon.com (Full review at https: //www.favoritelibrarian.com/post/book-review-kinky-roots-a-memoir-by-ingrid-arlington )


⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ "Reads really really well! A brilliant account of challenges faced by a girl child." - Amazon Customer UK


⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ "Found myself laughing out loud, sometimes close to tears and others reflecting on my own life" - Saaji Nana on Goodreads

"A feisty and delightfully irreverent memoir of poignant observations by a first-rate writer." Full review: https: //www.authorsreading.com/book-reviews/ingrid-arlington/kinky-roots/