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The Adventurous Couple's Guide to Sex Toys

Violet Blue

Feeling adventurous? In this witty and well-informed consumer guide, best-selling author and sex educator Violet Blue shows couples how to choose and use sex toys to play and explore together -- and have mind-blowing sex. She leads readers through the maze of sex toys on the market, explaining the many options available, including different materials, care and cleaning, and how to see through exaggerated marketing claims. Along the way Violet offers tips on creative usage and ideas for introducing sex toys to a relationship: how to ask your boyfriend to use the blindfold in your bedside drawer or how to surprise your wife with a saucy gift without getting your face slapped (unless that was the point). The Adventurous Couple's Guide to Sex Toys takes a practical, sex-positive approach to pleasure, with plenty of safety advice and a list of websites for savvy online shopping. But why stop with the basics? Care to enact a threesome fantasy with two people? Set up the sexiest lighting for a webcam show? Dream of owning a steel cage dining table for captivating dinner parties? From the tried-and-true to the truly spectacular, you'll find it here in The Adventurous Couple's Guide.

Book Details

  • Publisher: Cleis Press
  • Publish Date: Sep 13rd, 2013
  • Pages: 168
  • Language: English
  • Edition: undefined - undefined
  • Dimensions: 7.90in - 5.40in - 0.50in - 0.45lb
  • EAN: 9781573449724
  • Categories: Personal & Practical GuidesSexualityLove & Romance

About the Author

Blue, Violet: - VIOLET BLUE (tinynibbles.com) is a blogger, high-profile tech personality, award-winning bestselling author and editor of more than two dozen books in five languages, podcaster, reporter for Web TV show GETV, technology futurist, and sex-positive pundit in mainstream media such as The Oprah Winfrey Show, CNN and The Tyra Banks Show. She is the sex columnist for the San Francisco Chronicle, with a weekly column titled "Open Source Sex," and she runs a podcast by the same name with more than 8 million downloads and counting. Violet is also a Forbes Web Celeb and one of Wired's Faces of Innovation. She writes for media outlets such as Forbes; O, The Oprah Magazine; and the UN-sponsored international health organization RH Reality Check. Violet gives lectures to cyberlaw classes at UC Berkeley, human sexuality programs at UCSF, and tech conferences (ETech and SXSW), in addition to sex crisis counselors at community teaching institutions and Google Tech Talks. Her tech blog is at techyum.com, and she publishes DRMfree audio and e-books at DigitaPub.com.

Praise for this book

"Blue's writing is accessible and funny and her knowledge of sex toys is both deep and wide. She provides the basics for any couple, but takes you places no other guide does."
--About.com
"Written by the renowned Violet Blue, one of the top sex educators in the world, "The Adventurous Couples Guide To Sex Toys" promises to deliver advice for first time users and illustrate creative ways to bring sex toys into the bedroom. The book doesn't disappoint. I LOVED it!"
--Cara Sutra, Melissa MacFarlane
"Think you know everything? Think twice... Everyone should read this book experienced or not."
--Sex Toy Reviewers
"Smart and choosing toys that are made from safe materials and maintaining them properly. From harnesses to webcams, to nipple clamps and dildos, this guide will serve to introduce you to the world of toys, or expand your knowledge if you already have a drawer full."
--City Book Review
"Are you stuck in a rut or just looking for some extra fun in your love life? THE ADVENTUROUS COUPLE'S GUIDE TO SEX TOYS will help you find something to include in your next adventure. Once again Violet Blue gives readers an educational and entertaining read with this guide."
-Fresh Fiction Reviews
"This a book ideal for people new to sex toys and indulging in new fantasies with a partner."
--"TJ's Take"
""The Adventurous Couple's Guide to Sex Toys" walks you through the basics of toys, bringing them up to partners and a bit of anatomy too."
--"Of Sex and Love"
"Useful information about new and upcoming sex toys written in an entertaining, easy-to-read language."
--"Quixotic Orchid"
""The Adventurous Couple's Guide to Sex Toys" is deftly written and thoroughly 'user friendly'. Highly recommended for gay or straight adults looking to 'spice up' their personal lives as individuals or as a couple."
--"Midwestern Book Review"
"There's something for every couple- no matter if you'd like to try a beginner's toy or something more extreme. This is an easy to understand reference book that I think you'll enjoy reading. Overall, this is a great book that I highly recommend!"
--"Night Owl Reviews"
"The book is a goldmine of interesting and unusual toys. Illustrations sprinkled throughout the pages help demonstrate the difference between, say, representational and non-representational dildos, and Blue gives clear, concise instructions on the care, handling, and sharing of toys."
--xoxoamore
"Which toy offers the turn on we're looking for? to Should it be made of silicone or jelly rubber? Multi-speed or multi-functional? These, and all sorts of other questions you might be too embarrassed to ask in a shop, are answered--and even the most experienced lovers will find Blue's advice invaluable."
--"Tamsin's Superotica"
"More in depth information than any other toy guide I've yet read."
--"Rolling in the Hay"
"A book that smart sex toy stores should give out for free to first time buyers."
--Julian Arancia
"Violet Blue is brilliant enough to write important health information in a really sexy way."
--"She Boppin'"
"This book is fabulous for all levels of experience, but what I love most about the book, aside from the knowledge it provides, is the fact that it busts down myths surrounding the use of sex toys, and portrays them positively and with an open mindedness that allows the reader to think "This isn't so scary, this is fun and exciting." It gives them the knowledge and allows them to see sex toys for what they are and the fun they can provide to anyone and everyone."
--"Gritty Woman"
"This guide is the perfect book to pass on to a curious friend or recommend to an acquaintance who has questions about how to introduce sex toys to the bedroom."
--"Airen Wolf Reviews"
"In her latest book, Violet Blue helps you navigate the world of sex toys. With everything from how to choose your first sex toy to cleaning, toys for girls or boys, kinky toys for couples and so much more, after reading this book you'll be able to shop like a pro."
--"Kink Etc."
"If you have ever wanted a non-threatening guide to getting your kink on, then this is the resource you need to have. A lot of sexiness crammed into 140 pages."
--"Erzabet Bishop"
"For people who want to introduce sex toys, or new sex toys, into their love-life Blue gives some great advice. You don't just present someone with "a vibrating pink bunny" when you have never broached the topic before. You start slowly. Picking up a copy of "The Adventurous Couple's Guide to Sex Toys" could be that starting point."
--Danielle Paradis
"Even for someone such as myself who considers herself something of a toy expert, there was some new information and resources to be gleaned from reading this book."
--"Clitical"
"Sex toys are a great way to bring a little adventure into the bedroom, to experiment with new experiences and to share them with your partner. Plus, having a few around can really expand what's on the menu - and that means you and your partner are more likely to leave the table feeling satisfied."
--"Kinkly"
"A very useful introduction to the many different types of toys currently available. Packed with practical advice, this should be required reading for new retail staff."
--"Erotic Trade Only"
"Informative, witty, and easy to read."
--"Her Private Island"
"No longer are toys solely for solo pleasure. Violet's vast research and expertise in this area can guide both novice and toy-experienced couples."
--Lou Paget, author of" The Great Lover Playbook"
"It is full of good information and makes a good book to keep on hand for references-especially as you venture into new areas."
--"Eden Fantasys"
"This how-to presents toys as safe and fun options for heterosexual couples. Blue, author of numerous excellent sex guides from Cleis Press, concisely covers all the usual suspects: vibrators, dildos, plugs, "toys for boys," BDSM (bondage & discipline/sadomasochism) gear, how to talk about toys with your partner, and how to use them [...] She surveys the wide variety of products very well, with ample safe-sex and safety reminders."
--"Library Journal"
""The Adventurous Couple's Guide to Sex Toys" shows readers successful ways to introduce sex toys into relationships. This new book continues her focus on cultivating and maintaining the magic between lovers. As the editor of best-selling erotica anthologies especially for couples -- "Sweet Life, Sweet Life 2," and "Taboo" -- she knows how to bring the heat."
--"Good Vibrations"
"Violet Blue has done it again with this concise and straight-forward guide to the often overwhelming world of sex toys. With reassurance and wit, this guide suggests great ways for couples to integrate sex toys into a relationship. Give it to a partner as a hint, or read it together in bed for a fun evening, this guide is sure to spice up the romance and ease some of those shopping phobias."
--"Come as You Are"
"The idea professed by this guide is that couple's use of toys is all about getting both partners onto the same page -- it provides information of everything out there, and communication skills on how to interest a partner in, and negotiate couple usage."
--"The Dinah Project"

"Blue's writing is accessible and funny and her knowledge of sex toys is both deep and wide. She provides the basics for any couple, but takes you places no other guide does."--About.com

"Written by the renowned Violet Blue, one of the top sex educators in the world, The Adventurous Couples Guide To Sex Toys promises to deliver advice for first time users and illustrate creative ways to bring sex toys into the bedroom. The book doesn't disappoint. I LOVED it!" --Cara Sutra, Melissa MacFarlane

"Think you know everything? Think twice... Everyone should read this book experienced or not." --Sex Toy Reviewers

"Smart and choosing toys that are made from safe materials and maintaining them properly. From harnesses to webcams, to nipple clamps and dildos, this guide will serve to introduce you to the world of toys, or expand your knowledge if you already have a drawer full." --City Book Review

"Are you stuck in a rut or just looking for some extra fun in your love life? THE ADVENTUROUS COUPLE'S GUIDE TO SEX TOYS will help you find something to include in your next adventure. Once again Violet Blue gives readers an educational and entertaining read with this guide." -Fresh Fiction Reviews

"This a book ideal for people new to sex toys and indulging in new fantasies with a partner."--TJ's Take

"The Adventurous Couple's Guide to Sex Toys walks you through the basics of toys, bringing them up to partners and a bit of anatomy too." --Of Sex and Love

"Useful information about new and upcoming sex toys written in an entertaining, easy-to-read language." --Quixotic Orchid

"The Adventurous Couple's Guide to Sex Toys is deftly written and thoroughly 'user friendly'. Highly recommended for gay or straight adults looking to 'spice up' their personal lives as individuals or as a couple."--Midwestern Book Review

"There's something for every couple- no matter if you'd like to try a beginner's toy or something more extreme. This is an easy to understand reference book that I think you'll enjoy reading. Overall, this is a great book that I highly recommend!"--Night Owl Reviews

"The book is a goldmine of interesting and unusual toys. Illustrations sprinkled throughout the pages help demonstrate the difference between, say, representational and non-representational dildos, and Blue gives clear, concise instructions on the care, handling, and sharing of toys." --xoxoamore

"Which toy offers the turn on we're looking for? to Should it be made of silicone or jelly rubber? Multi-speed or multi-functional? These, and all sorts of other questions you might be too embarrassed to ask in a shop, are answered--and even the most experienced lovers will find Blue's advice invaluable." --Tamsin's Superotica

"More in depth information than any other toy guide I've yet read." --Rolling in the Hay

"A book that smart sex toy stores should give out for free to first time buyers." --Julian Arancia

"Violet Blue is brilliant enough to write important health information in a really sexy way." --She Boppin'

"This book is fabulous for all levels of experience, but what I love most about the book, aside from the knowledge it provides, is the fact that it busts down myths surrounding the use of sex toys, and portrays them positively and with an open mindedness that allows the reader to think "This isn't so scary, this is fun and exciting." It gives them the knowledge and allows them to see sex toys for what they are and the fun they can provide to anyone and everyone." --Gritty Woman

"This guide is the perfect book to pass on to a curious friend or recommend to an acquaintance who has questions about how to introduce sex toys to the bedroom." --Airen Wolf Reviews

"In her latest book, Violet Blue helps you navigate the world of sex toys. With everything from how to choose your first sex toy to cleaning, toys for girls or boys, kinky toys for couples and so much more, after reading this book you'll be able to shop like a pro." --Kink Etc.

"If you have ever wanted a non-threatening guide to getting your kink on, then this is the resource you need to have. A lot of sexiness crammed into 140 pages." --Erzabet Bishop

"For people who want to introduce sex toys, or new sex toys, into their love-life Blue gives some great advice. You don't just present someone with "a vibrating pink bunny" when you have never broached the topic before. You start slowly. Picking up a copy of The Adventurous Couple's Guide to Sex Toys could be that starting point." --Danielle Paradis

"Even for someone such as myself who considers herself something of a toy expert, there was some new information and resources to be gleaned from reading this book." --Clitical

"Sex toys are a great way to bring a little adventure into the bedroom, to experiment with new experiences and to share them with your partner. Plus, having a few around can really expand what's on the menu - and that means you and your partner are more likely to leave the table feeling satisfied." --Kinkly

"A very useful introduction to the many different types of toys currently available. Packed with practical advice, this should be required reading for new retail staff."--Erotic Trade Only

"Informative, witty, and easy to read." --Her Private Island

"No longer are toys solely for solo pleasure. Violet's vast research and expertise in this area can guide both novice and toy-experienced couples." --Lou Paget, author of The Great Lover Playbook

"It is full of good information and makes a good book to keep on hand for references-especially as you venture into new areas." --Eden Fantasys

"This how-to presents toys as safe and fun options for heterosexual couples. Blue, author of numerous excellent sex guides from Cleis Press, concisely covers all the usual suspects: vibrators, dildos, plugs, "toys for boys," BDSM (bondage & discipline/sadomasochism) gear, how to talk about toys with your partner, and how to use them [...] She surveys the wide variety of products very well, with ample safe-sex and safety reminders." --Library Journal

"The Adventurous Couple's Guide to Sex Toys shows readers successful ways to introduce sex toys into relationships. This new book continues her focus on cultivating and maintaining the magic between lovers. As the editor of best-selling erotica anthologies especially for couples -- Sweet Life, Sweet Life 2, and Taboo -- she knows how to bring the heat."--Good Vibrations

"Violet Blue has done it again with this concise and straight-forward guide to the often overwhelming world of sex toys. With reassurance and wit, this guide suggests great ways for couples to integrate sex toys into a relationship. Give it to a partner as a hint, or read it together in bed for a fun evening, this guide is sure to spice up the romance and ease some of those shopping phobias." --Come as You Are

"The idea professed by this guide is that couple's use of toys is all about getting both partners onto the same page -- it provides information of everything out there, and communication skills on how to interest a partner in, and negotiate couple usage." --The Dinah Project