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The Loves of My Life: A Sex Memoir

Edmund White

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From the legendary author Edmund White, a stunning, revelatory memoir of a lifetime of gay love and sex.

"In his panoply of sexual encounters, Edmund White's love of sex makes us proud to be human. And the story of his sex life reads like a beautifully crafted, very moving (and very funny!) novel." -John Irving

"A raw, frightening, funny, and beautiful testimony, brimming with transgressive wisdom." -Robert Jones, Jr.

I'm at an age when writers are supposed to say finally what mattered most to them-for me it would be thousands of sex partners.

The 85-year-old "paterfamilias of queer literature" (New York Times) recounts the sixty-plus years of sexual escapades that have inspired his many masterpieces. He explores the sex he had with other closeted boys of the 50s Midwest, with women as a young man trying to be straight, the sex he's paid for and been paid for, sex during the Stonewall and HIV eras, and in the age of the apps. Through tales of transactional sex, mutual admiration, open relationships, domination, submission, love, and loss, he paints an indelible portrait of queer history in America and abroad in a way only someone who has lived through it can.

Written with White's signature honesty, irreverence, and wit, The Loves of My Life is the culmination of a legend's life and work, a delightful and moving tour of over seventy years of being unabashedly gay and in love with love in all its forms.

Book Details

  • Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing
  • Publish Date: Jan 28th, 2025
  • Pages: 256
  • Language: English
  • Edition: undefined - undefined
  • Dimensions: 8.20in - 5.60in - 1.10in - 0.85lb
  • EAN: 9781639733729
  • Categories: LGBTQ+Literary FiguresMemoirs

About the Author

White, Edmund: - Edmund White (1940-2025) authored more than thirty works of fiction, memoir, and nonfiction, including the novels A Boy's Own Story, Our Young Man, and The Humble Lover; the memoirs City Boy, Inside a Pearl, and The Unpunished Vice; The Flâneur, a tour through Paris; the literary biographies Genet and Rimbaud; and many more. His most recent work, the sexual autobiography The Loves of My Life, was a New York Times Editors' Choice. He received the PEN/Saul Bellow Award for Achievement in American Fiction and the Medal for Distinguished Contribution to American Letters from the National Book Foundation.

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Praise for this book

"With his trademark irreverence, White celebrates more than six decades of sex in a candid memoir that doubles as an indispensable work of queer history . . . Delightfully raunchy and affecting, this steamy account is full of pleasures." --Publishers Weekly, starred review

"In crisply written episodes laced with a wry sense of humor about his own shortcomings and social foibles, White remains a talented, carnally flagrant raconteur whose memoir thumps with the palpably racing heartbeat of life, sex, love, and unbridled desire. An irreverent and unapologetically provocative scrapbook of an aging author's sex life." --Kirkus Reviews, starred review

"I don't know anyone, except Edmund White, who's had 'thousands of sex partners.' I definitely don't know anyone who writes so ebulliently about former lovers. In his panoply of sexual encounters, Edmund White's love of sex makes us proud to be human. And the story of his sex life reads like a beautifully crafted, very moving (and very funny!) novel." --John Irving

"Ecstatic, so funny, tender, very hot - a scintillating romp with a literary lion. Daddy's diary fully delivers, pungent and real, teeming with gasp-worthy disclosures, as illuminating as it is filthy." --Jeremy Atherton Lin, author of GAY BAR and DEEP HOUSE

"Edmund White's The Loves of My Life is a raw, frightening, funny, and beautiful testimony, brimming with transgressive wisdom. White asks all the right questions, forcing me to expand much of what I imagined about desire and longing. There's so much of the under-examined (sex) life laid bare here-enough to make grown folks blush. But it was the skilled explorations of the twin demons of hatred and self-hatred that broke me down and broke me open. The Loves of My Life is an invaluable historical understanding of how gay men navigate perpetually hostile terrain and sometimes manage to avoid its death traps." --Robert Jones, Jr., New York Times bestselling author of THE PROPHETS, a finalist for the National Book Award for Fiction

"Nearly 50 years after the great Edmund White co-authored The Joy of Gay Sex, we get even more joy, more candor, and more of White's peerless literary style in a witty and highly personal memoir devoted to a lifelong love of sex, and of sex and love. Fabulous-and inspiring!" --Bill Hayes, author of IINSOMNIAC CITY: NEW YORK, OLIVER, AND ME

"Balletic in its horniness." --Jami Attenberg, author of THE MIDDLESTEINS

"Exhaustively wonderful. An unflinching, romantic, and generous climax by a bright star in our literary constellation. The gayest book ever written." --Henry Hoke, author of OPEN THROAT

"One of the patron saints of queer literature, a new book from Edmund White is always a cause for celebration. The Loves of My Life feels like the culmination of a profound wisdom - wry, hilarious, moving, and brilliantly unreserved. This litany of lovers becomes a sort of community in itself, full of vitality and difference. White is still breaking taboos in the most joyous and virtuoso style." --Seán Hewitt, author of ALL DOWN DARKNESS WIDE

"The books by 80-year-old American novelist, memoirist and essayist Edmund White-honest, fierce and joyful explorations of love, sex and family-have been breaking boundaries and engaging readers for nearly 50 years." --AARP

"[Edmund White is] one of the three or four most virtuosic living writers of sentences in the English language." --Dave Eggers, author of THE EVERY

"White relates encounters in vivid detail, as if glorying in their mundanity, but existential truths nonetheless rise to the surface: being gay is what allowed him to survive his upbringing; the victory of Stonewall 'permitted us to put our creative energies into something other than simply enduring.' Character portraits emerge too, often in a sole sentence, especially, of course, of the author himself, and his life in love and writing." --Booklist