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The oldest cultures in the world have mastered the art of raising happy, well-adjusted children. What can we learn from them?
"Hunt, Gather, Parent is full of smart ideas that I immediately wanted to force on my own kids." --Pamela Druckerman, The New York Times Book Review
When Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff becomes a mother, she examines the studies behind modern parenting guidance and finds the evidence frustratingly limited and often ineffective. Curious to learn about more effective parenting approaches, she visits a Maya village in the Yucatán Peninsula. There she encounters moms and dads who parent in a totally different way than we do--and raise extraordinarily kind, generous, and helpful children without yelling, nagging, or issuing timeouts. What else, Doucleff wonders, are Western parents missing out on?
In Hunt, Gather, Parent, Doucleff sets out with her three-year-old daughter in tow to learn and practice parenting strategies from families in three of the world's most venerable communities: Maya families in Mexico, Inuit families above the Arctic Circle, and Hadzabe families in Tanzania. She sees that these cultures don't have the same problems with children that Western parents do. Most strikingly, parents build a relationship with young children that is vastly different from the one many Western parents develop--it's built on cooperation instead of control, trust instead of fear, and personalized needs instead of standardized development milestones.
Maya parents are masters at raising cooperative children. Without resorting to bribes, threats, or chore charts, Maya parents rear loyal helpers by including kids in household tasks from the time they can walk. Inuit parents have developed a remarkably effective approach for teaching children emotional intelligence. When kids cry, hit, or act out, Inuit parents respond with a calm, gentle demeanor that teaches children how to settle themselves down and think before acting. Hadzabe parents are experts on raising confident, self-driven kids with a simple tool that protects children from stress and anxiety, so common now among American kids.
Not only does Doucleff live with families and observe their methods firsthand, she also applies them with her own daughter, with striking results. She learns to discipline without yelling. She talks to psychologists, neuroscientists, anthropologists, and sociologists and explains how these strategies can impact children's mental health and development. Filled with practical takeaways that parents can implement immediately, Hunt, Gather, Parent helps us rethink the ways we relate to our children, and reveals a universal parenting paradigm adapted for American families.
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You may want to try Grace Farris' charming, thoughtful Mom Milestones, Michaeleen Doucleff's upbeat, accessible Hunt, Gather, Parent, or Ibram X. Kendi's impassioned, candid How to Raise an Antiracist. #AskALibrarian https://t.co/MFWh2KTn3M
Deborah Farmer Kris is a writer, teacher and parent educator.
I'm excited to host a parenting conversation with @FoodieScience on May 12 at 7pm EST --sponsored by five MA libraries and Aesop's Fables bookstore -- about her book "Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About Raising Happy, Helpful Young Humans." https://t.co/kJFtCTkdDx
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