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Monogamy

Adam Phillips

A provocative collection of meditations on coupledom and its discontents that is "playful, brilliant ... profound ... keeps us faithful to the last page" (The New York Observer)--from the witty psychoanalyst and author of On Kissing, Tickling, and Being Bored.

Adam Phillips manages to unsettle one of our most dearly held ideals, that of the monogamous couple, by speculating upon the impulses that most threaten it--boredom, desire, and the tempting idea that erotic fulfillment might lie elsewhere. With 121 brilliant aphorisms, the witty, erudite psychoanalyst who gave us On Kissing, Tickling, and Being Bored distills the urgent questions and knotty paradoxes behind our mating impulse, and reveals the centrality of monogamy to our notions of marriage, family, the self--in fact, to everything that matters.

The only truly monogamous relationship is the one we have with ourselves.
Every marriage is a blind date that makes you wonder what the alternatives are to a blind date.
There's nothing more scandalous than a happy marriage.

Book Details

  • Publisher: Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group
  • Publish Date: Mar 30th, 1999
  • Pages: 144
  • Language: English
  • Edition: undefined - undefined
  • Dimensions: 8.80in - 5.46in - 0.39in - 0.43lb
  • EAN: 9780679776178
  • Categories: Marriage & Long Term RelationshipsHuman Sexuality (see also Social Science - Human Sexuality)

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About the Author

ADAM PHILLIPS is the author of Winnicott; On Kissing, Tickling, and Being Bored; On Flirtation; and Terror and Experts. Formerly the principal child psychotherapist at Charing Cross Hospital in London, he lives in England.

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Praise for this book

"Wonderful . . . Phillips's great gift as a writer is for aphorism and paradox, and that is the joy of Monogamy." --Esquire

"Adam Phillips writes with far-sighted equanimity. . . . In this regard, he's a little like an Oliver Sacks of psychoanalysis, both affable and unalarmed." --The Boston Globe

"Phillips's reflections on monogamy are both discomforting and comforting." --The Washington Post Book World

"Playful, brilliant . . . profound . . . keeps us faithful to the last page."--The New York Observer